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Ladies and gentlemen, listen up!

College relationships, college love, College relationship advice

College relationship advice from College Cures.
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We all have relationship troubles and we all look for ways to solve them. Having a clingy partner that is a big issue. It’s perfectly normal to want to spend time with your partner. What happens when that time together begins to take a toll on the relationship?

Now many of you may already know what I’m talking about. I’m sure some of you are already facing an issue with your partner. He or she may be wanting to spend more time with you than you can afford to them. I’m speaking to everyone in general. It’s not just girls who do this, guys do it too.

 We all want our space

It’s okay to say to your partner that you want space. I’m sure that you would give him the same respect. We all go through moments where we need time alone. But what if your partner isn’t willing to do this. He or she may be afraid that the time alone means that you don’t love them anymore. That is an issue that exists within them, not you. So never place that burden or load onto your shoulders.

These are all issues that exist within your partner and that is something that they need to change, not you.

Is it worth it to stay?

That is one of the first questions to ask yourself. Your partner may have some very wonderful and admirable qualities about them. Will their clinginess be the deal-breaker?

The first thing you need to do is talk to them about it.  Talk to your partner and let him (or her) know how you are feeling inside. Does your partner constantly need the validation? Can he or she go five minutes without saying I love you?

If you are going somewhere, does your partner need you to check in every two seconds for a status update. That is a big problem right there.

Set boundaries

I’m sorry but this needs to be done for a clingy partner. You have to set boundaries with him or her. You don’t want your relationship to cross over to a co-dependent relationship. Because when it does, it’s not a relationship anymore. They are co-dependent on you and if you don’t set some rules and guidelines, than you are the enabler.

Encourage him or her to have a life outside of the two of you. This needs to be done. Don’t allow your partner to use you as the crutch for him or her to stand on.  This is not healthy for either of you. Don’t play the game. This will only encourage them.

Take a look at what the two of you have. If more good outweighs the bad, than there may be ways of working through this. But let it be known that you are not the cause of your partner’s actions. Let your partner know that you won’t stand for this behavior and that he or she needs to stops this. Do it in a friendly fashion. You want to encourage your partner, not paint them into a corner.

If you are not giving them a reason to not trust you, ask yourself, “What is the problem?”

Suggest some therapy sessions as a way to break down these walls and get clear of things. That way the two of you can carry on together. If you partner takes this route, be supportive in any way that you can. If it means saving the relationship, do your part.

If the relationship continues on and your partner isn’t making any effort, you need to think about whether or not you want to stay. Yes, you love them, but is that enough to keep the two of you going. Especially when he or she comes with so much baggage to begin with.

If the relationship has reached the point of no return or you feel it might, you need to make a choice as to the emotional investment.

When it comes to investing in a cling partner, how much will you save in the end?

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