Relationships are all about experience.
Sometimes life can be the best teacher. It doesn’t matter how many books you read, they are not going to prepare you for life in the dating world. It’s kind of like living a highly spiritual life. You can read all of the great books that you want and consult with all of the great teachers and sages, but if you are not out there living the life and putting it all into action, it won’t mean anything in the end.
Well dear readers, a relationship is very much like that, it’s built on the same premise.. You need to get out there and live the experience. You need to fall down and make those mistakes. You need to go out with all of the those wrong guys, before you make a life with the right one.
That great guy is not just going to happen magically overnight.
When you were younger I’m sure that your mother, if you grew up with one, told you night-time stories of various fairy-tale princesses. She told you about the magical prince who came and saved her. This princess is fluent in so many great stories, such as Beauty and the Beast and Snow White. But what if these stories that we are told are lies? I mean if you take a look around you, you will find that there is no such thing as a prince. Sure some of you might be dating a guy that you feel is “a prince.” He didn’t ride in on a magical horse, did he?
What about the fairytale?
It’s funny how in all of the fairy-tales they all end the same way and they lived happily ever after.
If you examine these books closely, they all foretell the same thing. A girl gets rescued by her knight and he takes her away. There isn’t any thought about what she wants. He “saves” her and he takes her off to this great big castle. Forgive me for saying this ladies, but I think these “great books” set us up for failure. They gives us all a false sense of safety and comfort. Some stories teach us that if we just sit there and do nothing a prince will show up and rescue us.
They never teach us that we have to put effort into what we want. These stories always make it out to be what the guy wants not what a woman is looking for. How do we know that 5 hours into the honeymoon, the prince didn’t do something to anger the princess? They never teach us effort, they only teach us that we should “expect and want” to be saved.
The key here is effort.
We have to go out and live those experiences. That way we have something to show for it. Don’t just expect a relationship to happen to you or for you. With much of the stuff that I write about, I have lived through the same things. I know about the heartache and the pain. If you can relate to what I’m talking about ladies (and gentlemen), you have lived it too. There is no shame in admitting that either. If you can relate to any of this, it’s actually a bonus. Because it shows that you are putting yourself out there and not just hiding in your room behind a book.
It’s not enough to say that we went out on one date and than called it a life. We have to work in order to find the one. That right there is proof that you are actually living these relationship experiences, and not just staying asleep until your prince comes. I’ve got new for you ladies and gentlemen, if you choose to stay asleep waiting for life to happen to you– it won’t.
When it comes to life and relationships: There are certain things that can’t be taught or read, you have to put yourself out there in order for it to count.
Are you living life to the fullest?
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