If you are like me, then you will, most likely, be spending Valentines Day locked in your room watching The Notebook (for the billionth time), eating chocolate (that you bought for yourself), and complaining about how alone you are (to your cat/stuffed animal). Hopefully, you are not like me and will either be out  having a girls night or doing something productive.

Just because you don’t have a significant other to spend Valentines Day with, does not mean that you have to spend it in reckless amounts of self-pity. Being single can sometimes be a blessing in disguise. February 14th is a day just like any other, so being single should not bother you any more on that day than it would on May 20th, for example.

If I’m being honest, than yes, the mere thought of the 14th of February gives most people chills. There is unnecessary pressure to have the “perfect date,” or even a date in general. Boyfriends are expected to go above and beyond; girlfriends are expected to buy super sexy lingerie. The commercialization of love surrounds us, giving the impression that Valentines Day is the be all to end all for relationships, crushes, first dates, first kisses, first times, and everything in between.  Even singles on V-Day are synonymous with watching sappy romance movies, eating chocolate and feeling sorry for themselves (ya know, people like me).

Well, ladies and gentlemen of the singles population, here’s a little something to smile about in regards to being single on this blessed “holiday”:

You have no expectations to perform some grand gesture of affection.

You don’t have to eat a whole entire box of Lindt chocolate by yourself in a dark room.

There is no law that says your Netflix queue must be filled with Ryan Gosling, Meg Ryan, and Drew Barrymore films.

You are a living, breathing human being with friends and family that love you.

Most relationships that you think are perfect, really aren’t.

Guys, you don’t have to spend a ton of money on a girl that you (as statistics have it) probably won’t end up with.

Girls, you don’t have to wear uncomfortable lingerie.

If there is anything that should be learned from this article it is this:

Love yourself and where you are in life. Whether it be single or taken, happy or sad – you are who you are for a reason. There should be no day, no event, no celebration that should make you feel bad about who you are. If you are single, enjoy it – it’s better than being in a relationship where you are being hurt. If you are in a relationship, cherish that person and treat them like the gift they are. If you are happy, spread it around! If you are sad,  find something in your life every day to smile about.

Whether it is February 14th or July 4th, find something to be happy about in whatever situation you find yourself living. 

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