It’s tough to start off dating/hooking up with someone without knowing their real intentions. If you like someone, the last thing you want to do is put yourself out there only to find out a week or so in that the other person just isn’t really interested in something more.
The Signs
While none of these are signs are indicative of one thing or another, they are simple guidelines and cues for you to follow when evaluating your current relationship (or lack there of).
1. Do you know more about your crush than he/she knows about you?
If you feel like you are really interested in getting to know someone, you ask them a lot of questions in order to do so. How can you tell if someone is also interested in you? If they not only answer your questions, but ask you the same questions back and some of their own.
If you feel like your crush has been doing all the talking while not asking you about you, this may be a sign that the person isn’t as into you as you are into them.
2. Do you communicate on the regular or just at night/on the weekends?
If you find yourself being contacted by your crush in the wee-hours of the night or only on the weekends, you may be considered a booty-call and nothing more.
When your crush can’t find the time for you even in the early stages of your relationship/hookup, you can bet this person isn’t ever going to squeeze you into their schedule permanently. If you are constantly working around his/her schedule and never around yours, there may be a reason for this.
If you haven’t heard from your crush in a few days, then all of a sudden on Thursday night he/she is available and wants you to come over, this is a sure sign that you have crossed the line into booty-call territory. The best way to deal with this is to stop answering such texts and cut it off at the source.
3. When he/she compliments you, what type of compliments are they?
If your crush gushes over your personality and laughs at everything you say, this could be a sign that he/she actually likes you. Pay attention to compliments because there is a difference between “you look really nice tonight,” and “you look so good I can’t wait to get you home.”
If all you are hearing from your crush are compliments about your looks or body, it may be time to back off a bit. If you constantly catch your crush checking out your body when you are together or if he/she can’t go five minutes without coppin’ a feel, your crush may be looking for a lay, but not a relationship.
4. Are your opinions/thoughts respected or shot down?
If you find yourself being shot down or disrespected by your crush, you can bet this person doesn’t respect you or your ideas.
Even if you are the most argumentative person in the world, if you like someone, you make the effort to bite your tongue and hold back, even if you don’t agree. No one wants to show their negative side to someone they like, so you can bet that if your crush doesn’t hold back with you, he/she isn’t holding out for a future with you, either.
5. Is your crush vague or elusive?
If you just can’t seem to catch up with her at the party she told you she would be at, or he keeps breaking the plans you made to get lunch, and yet, he/she acts like a different person when you are alone in the dorm Saturday night, you may have become the flavor of the week.
When your crush doesn’t answer your texts or avoids seeing you on your terms, you should know that this is not a good sign and if you don’t want to wait around to be dropped from his/her life abruptly, I would suggest walking away now.
EXCEPTIONS:
Of course, in life, there are no “sure things.” These behaviors don’t necessarily have to be present for you to still be considered the flavor of the week and they can be present for someone who actually likes you.
Your crush may be good at hiding these signs or worse: sends you all the right signals, but doesn’t plan on following through.
The point is, don’t let a crush or feelings of lust cloud your judgement; whether these signs are currently present or not, be careful in any relationship/hookup if you don’t want to get hurt.
Be aware that people say things they don’t mean, and do things they will regret in the morning. If you think you are the flavor of the week to your crush, don’t sweat it. Let it go before letting this person walk all over you and leave with your self-respect in hand.
