Spring Break Romances
Spring break is a time for fun, sun relaxation and of course, a little harmless (or not so harmless) flirting.
It’s easy to get caught up in the thrill of spring break, especially when the only thing between you and your spring break fling is a skimpy bikini or board shorts and the ocean waves crashing between you. So what exactly are the spring break fling rules? What if you’re single? What if you’re taken? To fling or not to fling, that is the question!
If you’re single: Fling
If you find yourself fancy-free and footloose this spring break, there’s really no reason why you can’t throw yourself into the fun of a spring break romance; however, you should be aware of a few things that any savvy-spring-breaker knows.
Don’t expect anything
If you hookup with a rando on spring break, do not expect a relationship, flowers or even a phone call. I’m not just talking about girls here, either. Guys can become victims just as easily by falling for that tan, exotic hottie under the heat of the scorching summer sun.
Remember that your hookup buddy is 95% not looking for love, and 95%+ looking for booty. If you keep this in mind and don’t lose sight of the prize, your vacation will be filled with fun, steamy memories, not misery and heartbreak.
Be careful of those claiming to be single
The last thing you want hanging over your head is the notion that you spoiled someone else’s relationship because you got with a girl/guy that really WASN’T single after all.
Remember that spring break is a chance for people to let loose and have fun, but it’s also a time for people in relationships to “take a break” without the other person knowing about it.
Look for cues: does he/she have to walk away to make phone calls or answer texts? Does he/she ever say “my girlfriend this, my boyfriend that…I mean…EX boyfriend…(pause, pause)”? Does his/her Facebook status say “In a Relationship”?
These are all clues (quite obvious, but often overlooked when you start liking someone) that you should be paying attention to!
No matter what you do, always practice safe sex and do not forgo a condom just because you are drunk, can’t find one, or your flinger insists on not using one.
Just remember: you do NOT know this person and the last thing you need is to wake up with an STD, etc.
If you’re taken: Do NOT Fling
This should be obvious to most of you, however, there are plenty of people who believe spring break qualifies as a free-pass to do everything with a pulse or that drinking excessive amounts of alcohol means you suddenly have a viable excuse for cheating, but save everyone some grief and do not cheat this spring break.
If you’ve spotted someone attractive…
We all face temptations in our lives and whether you are at school or on a beach, the rules of your relationship still apply.
Think of it this way: would you want your significant other to do to you what you are thinking of doing to them? Cheating is never pretty whether you tell the person or not, so do your conscience and your partner a favor and keep it in your pants.
If you’re being hit on… and you like it.
If you find yourself being hit on (or hitting on someone) and you really like it, you may want to think about breaking up with your partner.
HOWEVER, do not break up with your partner JUST so you can hookup with the beach hottie starring at you from across the bar because if you do this, you are probably going to end up feeling guilty or missing your partner and attempting a reconciliation post-spring break.
The problem? Your broken-hearted partner may not be so willing to take you back after you not only cheated, but broke his/her heart for some sun-kissed booty.
If you’re being persued, you like it, but you don’t want anything to happen…
Simply explain to the person that you’re taken and no amount of free drinks, back rubs or flirting on the dance floor is going to change the fact that you are in a committed relationship and cheating is not even on the table.
But most importantly…
Have fun, be safe and don’t do anything you’re going to regret in the morning (or even a week from now).