Getting Hitched in College: Why You May Want to Reconsider Walking Down the Aisle Before Graduation

You may be in college, but wedding bells are still ringing!

Falling in love and getting married is a beautiful thing. Marriage is a bond that takes time and patience. After all, you’re dedicating the rest of your life to one person—day in and day out.

So why are so many young college students thinking about walking down the aisle before walking for commencement?

Being in love is one thing; marriage is another.

Many students are so wrapped up in love that they’re eager to quickly walk down the aisle to make it official.

However, marriage is not solely based off of being in love; it takes a lot of hard work and real sacrifice. It’s not about playing house or spending time in each other’s dormitory either.

You’ve vowed to spend the rest of your life with this person and that means you’re there for them through the love, affection as well as the fights and disputes; you’re suppose to stand by each other through thick and thin.

Marriage is not a game.

Some people find themselves falling in love with every guy or girl they become involved with. Whether you are seriously dating someone or just hooking up, marriage is no joke and it’s not to be taken lightly.

If you’re the type to fall easily for anyone who will show you a good time, trust me, you are not ready for marriage. Love and lust is much different from the love required to sustain a marriage which is why most people should WAIT before getting hitched.

Marriage is not like dating—you can’t just up and leave as if you’re dating. You have to go through the entire separation and divorce process which can be painful and expensive.

What makes a young marriage work?

Young marriages—especially in if you’re both in college—are much different from “adult” marriages and for that reason, are much more difficult.

Both of you are in school meaning both of you have massive bills called tuition that you have to pay. You have responsibilities other than each other that require a lot of time and effort to complete. Both parties must be committed to make time for one another in the hustle and bustle world of college.

You have to make time for work, school, house work (like doing the dishes, cleaning the bathroom and taking out the trash) and on top of all of that, you have to find time for each other, NO easy task.

Marriage can be great, but it can also be not-so-great.

I’m not saying that a college marriages are impossible to maintain (because anything is possible), but I am saying that your young marriage will take a lot of time and hard word.

Some young college students enjoying going to parties and social events which can typically last all night. Partying ALL night is not marriage appropriate, especially if you are thinking of having kids, or worse, if you are pregnant.

Things like that are the things that you’ll have to learn to cut out of your life in order to have a healthy and successful marriage. No one wants to see their spouse up on a table dancing drunkenly or grinding on some girl’s booty; you both have to find ways to love and respect one another’s boundaries and that may mean cutting partying out all together.

If you’re in college, before you plan to get married, think and plan it out carefully. Try living with each other to get a feel for what it may be like to be married. Decide later if you should hold off on marriage or if your partner is even the right person for you.