Before you read any of these do’s and don’ts there is one thing that I should tell you right now. Breaking up is hard to do and it really is a tough time in your life, especially if it is the end of your first serious relationship.
You will experience a whole range of emotions after a break up and you may go from being happy, to sad, to angry all in one day or one hour.
It’s going to be a roller-coaster of emotions after a break up, but hang tight. When you reach the other side you will see the rainbow and realize you are better off alone as you never know who is waiting around the corner.
DO: Call your friends and talk about it with them. If you haven’t already been a shoulder to cry on for a friend or two who is getting out of a relationship then I am sure you will be at one point in your life. Having friends around will cheer you up and take your mind off of the break up and be there when you feel that urge to pick up the phone and call your ex.
DON’T : Call your ex. Forget them! They did the dumping so stand tall, and move forward. There are plenty of fish in the sea and calling them and begging for them to take you back only strokes their ego. Don’t waste your time on them….plenty of other phone calls you can make.
DO: Take a moment to reflect on what happened in the relationship. There is opportunity to learn from all experiences in life so think about what went wrong or what you did or did not like about the relationship for next time around.
DON’T: Listen to that Carrie Underwood song a hundred times and get all revved up and go and vandalize your ex’s car. Jail is not worth it and no matter how satisfying it might feel smashing headlights with a baseball bat, it is going to feel super bad when you had to fork out your hard-earned cash to repair the damage.
DO: Take time for yourself. After a break up it can be tempting to jump back into a relationship with someone else to take your mind off of your ex. Keep your mind and time occupied by doing all things you put off doing because you were busy hanging out with your ex. Be selfish with your time and enjoy it. You are only young once.
DON’T: Do not give up on love. Just because one relationship did not work out it doesn’t mean that you will never find true love. They are out there waiting for you, so as you blow your red nose and rub your bloodshot eyes, remember the right person would never make you feel like this.
Breaking up is hard to do, but hang in there. True love is out there for everyone and when the time is right, you will find it.