Getting a relationship back is often dependent on whether or not the relationship is salvageable. In some cases, that might be possible and in others, it might be something that can’t be resolved.
Every relationship is different so depending on how you feel towards the end of a relationship, you might want to make some effort to try and reconcile with your ex-partner.
However, it’s important to acknowledge that there are two people in this relationship and that means, you need to be respectful that some partners might not be willing to even try. Here are some top tips to try getting a relationship back.
Get expert advice
Firstly, before you go trying to get the individual back, be sure to get some expert advice. There’s a lot of advice out there and when it comes to your experiences in relationships, yours may be fairly infantile in comparison to someone who has dealt with relationship issues for many years on a professional level.
With that being said, get expert advice on whether the relationship is possible to salvage. Relationship support services are great for getting an insight into what you might be doing wrong when it comes to reconciling relationships.
They may also be able to indicate whether or not it’s a relationship that you can even get back or not. After all, you don’t want to waste your time or your ex’s by trying out a relationship that’s already dead in the water.
Take time before reaching out
When it comes to getting a relationship back, the last thing you want to do is reach out the day after you’ve broken up. That’s not giving yourself or your partner some space from the situation. A breakup can be mentally and physically draining. For some, they might need a week or so to process their feelings, others might need more than that.
Taking the time before reaching out is important. Not only is it important to help both of you reflect on what’s happened but it’s also necessary to show that respect to your partner that you’re allowing them time to potentially grieve the relationship breakdown.
Sit down and discuss what went wrong
When the time is right, it’s helpful to sit down with your ex-partner to discuss the problems and where things might have gone wrong. It might not be a problem or problems that were obvious at the time but were contributing to the deterioration of the relationship in general.
You might not be aware of some of these problems and vice versa. Having a sit-down, adult conversation is useful to help process together, what went wrong in the relationship for it to end with a breakup.
Chances are, it’s something that is irreparable as a result, other times it might be that it is something that can be fixed.
Make sure you have this conversation and don’t just do it over the phone or over a video call. That’s not helpful when it comes to improving the possibility of a successful reconciliation. It also doesn’t show much dedication or commitment to the relationship.
Check if your ex wants to try again
Does your ex want to try again? There are two people in this relationship and how you feel doesn’t dominate the other person in the relationship. They are their own individual who makes their own decisions when it comes to their relationship. If they don’t want to continue the relationship, then it’s important to be respectful of this and to move on.
Sometimes, we don’t get what we want in life and it’s important to have a healthy response to this.
Have a trial period
A trial period is a good way of testing the waters when it comes to the relationship on its road to recovery. It might be that you come to the realization it’s just not working and rather than taking it any further, it’s good to just end it.
A lot of time, emotions, and effort can be saved on both parts if you’ve got a trial period for your reconciled relationship.
Don’t rush the relationship
Why rush the relationship you’ve managed to get back? By rushing, you’re likely to sweep over the problems that were there the first time and old habits might be made that contribute to another breakup.
Take your time with the relationship and really commit your time to your relationship where it was lacking beforehand.
Hopefully, with these tips, you’ll be able to get your relationship back to where it needs to be in 2023.